Things I wish someone had said when…

These are the things I wish someone had told me back when I was young and was very unsure of what to do with my life.

1. Just because the people around you had already figured out what they want to be (or what to take in university/college), it doesn’t mean you have to force yourself to have one either. Take your time. You’ll figure it out in the end.

2. Voice out your feelings no matter how hard it is. Recognize your emotions and don’t bottle it in. People may not listen but, hey, it’s healthier to let it out than to keep it in. It’s your right to voice out that you’re not feeling okay. And there will be people out there that will eventually listen.

3. You don’t have to please people. You can do whatever the fck you want as long as you’re not hurting anyone.

4. There will be people who will misunderstand you no matter how you present yourself. Don’t mind their opinion about you. What matters are the people who knows you really well (your parents and your closest friends).

5. Take your time to figure out what you really want to do with your life. Setbacks are okay. Don’t listen to people that tells you you’re too old to do shit. They don’t matter. You’re okay—you’re on your own pace.

6. It’s okay to be single and have no relationship experience at the age of 22. Focus on yourself, love yourself and heal yourself. You’ll eventually find the perfect person that will love you no matter how crazy and bitchy you are (a year later *wink*wink*).

7. Focus on your lane. Just because people of your same age are graduating, getting married and/or starting families, it doesn’t mean you have to either. Do not compare your life to them—you’ll have your moment—you’ll shine at the perfect time. Be patient.

8. Fix your goddamn attitude! Stop being a brat and realize that there will be things that won’t go your way. Stop thinking that you’ll get whatever you want if you throw tantrums. Just stop it. You’ll regret it when you grow older.

9. Never doubt yourself. Have confidence and courage to start doing things. Fear is okay—but learn to overcome it. This is the only way for you to grow—leave your comfort zone.

10. Be yourself. You don’t have to pretend you’re somebody else just so people will like you. Don’t be afraid to show people who you really are—no matter how much of a bitch you are. There will be people who’ll accept the way you are and there will be some who will stay the fck off.

11. Be sensible. Just because people (aka your friends) accept the way you are that doesn’t mean you’ll continue to do things that are favorable to you. Stop and observe. Reflect on your actions. Is it time to change some of your childish behaviours?

12. Mistakes happen and they are inevitable. Make sure to learn from these mistakes and don’t let it affect your way of living. Transform these mistakes into wisdom and you can share it with your children in the future—or to your younger friends.

13. Just because you are being nice to a person it doesn’t mean they will reciprocate the same treatment. Still, be nice and try to see the good on people.

14. Let go of the things you have no control of. Don’t hold onto something that will make you feel frustrated and upset—knowing you cannot even do a thing about it. You’ll feel much better by letting go and by recognizing that you can’t do something to make the situation better.

15. Love yourself. Always.

16. (Last one for now) Never ever compare your progress to anyone else. Focus on your own lane and don’t hesitate to take a rest if you’re feeling tired. As long as you come back stronger and ready to face another obstacle. You’re stronger than what you think.